Just say no! ‘No, it’s not fucking cool if you go for a walk.’
These were the words I should have said to my ex-travel accompanying person. No need for terms such as travel companion, travel buddy, travel partner, or anything of the sort because to convey anything positive of the travel accompanying person chosen to do this road trip with would be an untruth, a tall tale really, fit for fairytales or something lame like that!!
Context: Hour 75 of a spontaneous road trip that had no destination nor plan with an ill chosen “travel accompanying person”. Sounds great, right?! It gets better. So this followed what was a dismal 75 hours leading up to the infamous question, “Is it cool if I go for a walk?” Little did I know these previous 75 hours were a walk in the park in comparison to the next three and a half hours… when he decides it’s a good idea to leave a 22 year old girl in a dark, empty parking lot in a city 1,900 km from home. Brilliant idea, you giant asshole!
It seems there are some moments in life where you are left no option but to do something that scares you… This occasion was forced upon me because I chose an awful individual to travel with. Pretty sure the rules of traveling together include having one another’s back. Actually, I’m positive that’s a rule. Write that down and don’t forget it.
Reasons it was not cool for this travel accompanying person to go for a “walk” (whatever that means):
-there was zero indication given in the previous 75 hours that buddy would be able to walk even a block and be able to find his way back to the car
-buddy is a poor drinker, really can’t handle his alcohol
-and oh right… because that would leave me alone in the sketchy parking lot!
Lessons learned… although spontaneity is a wonderful and powerful thing, calculated spontaneity is so much more powerful (turns out safer too)! Always consider your options and always do heavy research into your travel accompanying person. References should be mandatory! *Believe me, I’m writing a book on it!!!!
I’m so happy I wasn’t afraid to tell buddy how I really felt about his behaviour and that I wasn’t afraid of doing the only thing I thought right in the situation- get away from this knob and fly home.
Hopefully this tale serves as one of warning; leaving anyone alone in the middle of the night is selfish and appalling; truly is ghastly behaviour that considers serious self reflection.
Now go face a fear; do something that scares you!