“This life has an infinite number of potentials for you; we live in a made to order Universe. Whatever you believe is possible for you and take consistent action upon is what becomes your reality. If you keep telling yourself that your dream isn’t possible, you will come to find that you are absolutely right.
Living in fear is so last season, if you want to be happy and really live your dream you have to take a stand and just put yourself out there. You might fail, yes indeed – but, you might, you just might succeed too! Don’t you want to find out? Either way your life will never be the same… Can you handle it?”
I’m grateful for frank conversations.
Do you ever wonder how often the truth is diluted; whether it be to spare feelings, get what one wants, embarrassment, to make things “easier”, or simply because it’s too difficult to communicate our true feelings, I think it would be safe to say the truth often becomes a distilled version of itself. On rare occasion do I find people to be frank. Funnily enough, we’re quick to think others are rude or unkind if they speak truths. Of course there are nicer ways than other to deliver messages but now we veer into semantics in trying to find some semblance of what truth really even means.
Perhaps due to its rarity, or simply because it’s often what you need to hear most, I appreciate frank conversations. I’m grateful for the people who bellow into my life and offer some frank, straight to the point, hit you where it hurts, truth. And it is more often than not, the people who bellow into my life above those who drift in!
Able to argue any side of an argument, finding a balance is often difficult for me, and what’s even more difficult is truly deciding where I stand. I want truth. I want frankness. I want love. I want kindness. There must be a way these can all magically work together in perfect alignment. There must!
Simply put, I think truthfulness comes from your heart and so long as you’re speaking in frank form and from a place of grace – you’re safe from those murky waters of distilled truths.
I am grateful for hopeless romantics.
Please allow me to explain. I feel like I’m forcing each finger to tap down on my keyboard as I write this post, but I shall go on! Today, is -gasp- Valentine’s Day. I honestly thought that I would be able to go through the entire day without even acknowledging this God forsaken day of “love”. More that whole Hallmark gluttonous holiday type stuff than anything – God, it’s horrifying!
Anyways, because the world makes it fucking impossible to ignore this day and I received far too many “Happy Valentine’s Day Beautiful” texts before I even got out of bed this morning (mostly because I’m nursing a broken heart and I know my friends are worried what with me already hating today and then this beauty for a topper, they should send some extra love), I went ahead and a) deleted those texts and b) decided that I would do my own version of February 14th! *I’m very sorry that I did not return anyone’s love texts… I’m not going as far as sending Valentine texts BUT I did show the world some love today.
Feeling all shitty today that the man I gave my heart to thought it’d be better smashed in a million pieces, and about to burst out crying when stopped at a red light (I know, it’s not pretty!!!), I realized feeling shitty for yourself doesn’t help anything! I know enough to know that doing some good and showing some love always makes you feel better. I went to treat myself to some Tim Horton’s and thought I’d pay for the person behind me in the drive through (OF COURSE buddy was buying for his whole fucking work force). I’m kidding… it was actually better that way. Random acts of kindness are awesome. BAM! Instant high for showing the world some unexpected love.
That’s the kind of love I’m looking for – unexpected love that just happens. Love that is simple. Although I’m this weird amalgamation of seemingly everything and nothing (I’m sorry if I ever have a child under the sign of the Gemini… it’s not easy!!), even in this case, I’m an optimistic pessimist that finds a bit of joy in those hopeless romantics. I’m not one, far from, but I do catch myself in fleeting moments wondering what it must be like up in the head of one of those – dreaming of rose petals and happily ever afters. Might be nice for a second or two.
Happy Day of Showing the Universe Some Unexpected Love. Do it everyday though – it’s so much better!!
p.s. Started my day with the intent to ignore this holiday all together, to this… #epicfail
I am grateful for LOVE.
Lately, Pablo Neruda, the famous love poet seems to be popping up more than I can turn a blind eye to. He’s straight to the heart and injects it with this deep reverence for love that I know I can’t ignore.
I’m thankful for love because I’d be lost without it. Connectedness, love and support are innate – we need it, but I’m mindful that to be loved – I need to be love! We’re all aware there are different kinds of love, but know that every kind of love surrounds us. Love will be there when we’re willing to receive it; the love of family, the love of your friends, a romantic love, and above all… self-love!
Love allows us to enjoy all life’s moments; joys and sorrows, ups and downs. Love reminds us to judge less, embrace more, and open ourselves up to moments we might have passed by. Love it all!
Love can be beautiful but believe me, I know it can raise its gnarly fist and be both painful and ugly, but look again. Your sorrows come from a place that you once found joy so embrace that pain and know that love will be beautiful once again!
Embracing love has softened me, broken walls, and made me feel. I’m loving with abandon and embracing heartache and heartbreak because it feels right and means this heart of mine is working. My love is endless…
“Love is so short, forgetting is so long.” — Pablo Neruda
“Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.” -Melodie Beattie
It’s one of those things we’re told to do, “count your blessings.” I do. I’m grateful. I am thankful.
Maybe I could show just a little more gratitude…
I’m setting an intention for February; show more love + gratitude for all the awesomeness in my life and for the awesomeness that has yet to arrive. I’m pulling out the nitty gritty small flickers of light all the way to the fireworks kinds of stuff in life that I’m thankful for. This month, it’s about showing my gratitude, being authentic, setting daily intentions, loving life, loving me, laughing more, and jumping into adventure with abandon!
It seems the unfamiliar makes us a little uneasy, a wee bit timid, maybe even sad, and at times even scared. We fear the unknown. Why is this? My mom wasn’t having the greatest of days today. “Pissed off at life,” she said. My mother is this beautiful woman, and not just beautiful in the physical sense but far beyond! She has a radiant heart; one that is kind, one that is giving, and one that has endured life and all its unexpected moments with grace. Her humour is something that has shaped her and her smile is just another facet of what makes her so beautiful, so when I saw an unfamiliar face today it made me sad. Why?
Simply put, I was fearful of the unknown. I was fearful of an unfamiliar face and fearful of the darkness that resides in all of us. Positivity is preached everywhere now it seems. I get it – I went to see the Dalai Lama speak of peace, I’ve heard what a big deal Oprah is and her quest to better the world by making us each live our lives to the fullest. I take a gander in the “self help” section of Chapters every once in a while. Is this why I’m fearful of bad days, a sad face, and the unfamiliar darker side of life?
I think we’re all warranted to those bad days, sad times, and being uncomfortable in unfamiliar situations. It’s simple to be thankful for the big things in our lives: our health, our family, our home. That’s the easy stuff – that’s the familiar stuff. We should be thankful for these blessings but also find solace in the unfamiliar seemingly negative aspects of life, and see that everything is a blessing if we are willing to look hard enough.
Be thankful for the darker side of life; the uncertainties, the inconsistencies, the curveballs and the shit that is dealt to each and every one of us. We don’t need to be having the best day everyday. I think it’s okay to be pissed off at life every once in a while, but remember that the unfamiliar grants us these amazing opportunities of new adventure and new perspective.
Maybe the big things weren’t working out for my mom in that exact moment but it granted her this awesome opportunity to come back to the small stuff and find beauty in the unexpected. Being forced to find the joy in the small stuff is a blessing.
The Bike Nerd put so poetically when he said, “We all have our reasons why we could be grumpy everyday, or we can find “stamp-size” things in our life and let ourselves smile.” For me, it’s Madeleine cookies (not only for their name but also their deliciousness). For my mom, it was a simple email from a friend and an unexpected coffee.
Revel in those small pleasures – life’s a lot sweeter when you do.
He refers to himself as, “a simple Buddhist Monk.” His Holiness, the 14th Dalai Lama, temporal and spiritual leader of the Tibetan people graced Toronto with his presence this past week, as tens of thousands gathered as the Dalai Lama spoke of “Human Approaches to World Peace.”
Tibetan flags swirled in the hands of such inspired hearts, all joined together in hopes of a more peaceful existence. His Holiness entered with grace and humility and was greeted with standing ovation as he humbly bowed to each member of the audience.
“So, sit down,” he said with a shake of his hands, to only confirm both his kindness and unassuming nature. The audience let out a relieved laugh upon this sweet gesture. Once His Holiness was comfortably siting, he laughed saying, “Very strong spotlight,” to which he revealed a visor. Clearly pleased with his joke, he giggled to himself with the candour that only a man of 75 years old can get away with and perched the visor on his head.
His Holiness began with the simple notion that, on a fundamental level, we are all the same. Physically, mentally, emotionally, we are all the same. As he put it so eloquently, “Everyone want happy life.” So simple, so truthful, so honest. We all want a happy life. His speech was charming and much more reminiscent of a conversation rather than a formal address as he continually reminded us of our humanity’s oneness.
His message was simple, logical and sincere. He explained the way in which all religions are based upon warm heartedness and carried this theme throughout. Love, compassion, and forgiveness are all we need. He explained that openness is key and once we begin to communicate and interact with one another as brothers and sisters, opportunities arise and peaceful interactions will commence.
“Respect other’s interests and listen,” were simple words of advice, amongst many that he offered the audience. Much like his speech, the Dalai Lama’s approach to world peace is deliberate and unhurried. Peaceful methods, for him, come from individuals and it begins from within. He believes that peace of mind can be achieved once your actions are promoted from the heart rather than a forceful place. To continually go through life understanding that others are a part of yourself, he believes will lead you to a more peaceful existence.
His Holiness went on in realistic form to make clear that this is an ongoing journey, where a calm mind is essential. He believes fear keeps us from our peaceful existence. “Open mind. Open heart. Trust.” For the Dalai Lama, this is what it is to conquer fear and instill a healthy mental attitude. Too much of a self-centered attitude creates more fear, more anxiety and more worry. He made clear that we must practice compassion, forgiveness and tolerance towards our brothers and our sisters to nurture a more peaceful way of life.
Simply put, the Dalai Lama says, “Peace will come through our actions.” Fear not what compassion and kindness will bring you, instead show your love and let the world start changing around you.