It seems the unfamiliar makes us a little uneasy, a wee bit timid, maybe even sad, and at times even scared. We fear the unknown. Why is this? My mom wasn’t having the greatest of days today. “Pissed off at life,” she said. My mother is this beautiful woman, and not just beautiful in the physical sense but far beyond! She has a radiant heart; one that is kind, one that is giving, and one that has endured life and all its unexpected moments with grace. Her humour is something that has shaped her and her smile is just another facet of what makes her so beautiful, so when I saw an unfamiliar face today it made me sad. Why?
Simply put, I was fearful of the unknown. I was fearful of an unfamiliar face and fearful of the darkness that resides in all of us. Positivity is preached everywhere now it seems. I get it – I went to see the Dalai Lama speak of peace, I’ve heard what a big deal Oprah is and her quest to better the world by making us each live our lives to the fullest. I take a gander in the “self help” section of Chapters every once in a while. Is this why I’m fearful of bad days, a sad face, and the unfamiliar darker side of life?
I think we’re all warranted to those bad days, sad times, and being uncomfortable in unfamiliar situations. It’s simple to be thankful for the big things in our lives: our health, our family, our home. That’s the easy stuff – that’s the familiar stuff. We should be thankful for these blessings but also find solace in the unfamiliar seemingly negative aspects of life, and see that everything is a blessing if we are willing to look hard enough.
Be thankful for the darker side of life; the uncertainties, the inconsistencies, the curveballs and the shit that is dealt to each and every one of us. We don’t need to be having the best day everyday. I think it’s okay to be pissed off at life every once in a while, but remember that the unfamiliar grants us these amazing opportunities of new adventure and new perspective.
Maybe the big things weren’t working out for my mom in that exact moment but it granted her this awesome opportunity to come back to the small stuff and find beauty in the unexpected. Being forced to find the joy in the small stuff is a blessing.
The Bike Nerd put so poetically when he said, “We all have our reasons why we could be grumpy everyday, or we can find “stamp-size” things in our life and let ourselves smile.” For me, it’s Madeleine cookies (not only for their name but also their deliciousness). For my mom, it was a simple email from a friend and an unexpected coffee.
Revel in those small pleasures – life’s a lot sweeter when you do.